When was it you found out you were becoming a father? Do you remember that moment, the joy, the euphoria…… oh crap we’re having a baby?
My first dad moment came at an already turbulent time in our lives when we had just decided to move from Edmonton, Alberta to Victoria, British Columbia. Having a baby was on the agenda, although we were pretty sure we were safe as we’d just ceased using birth control shortly before.
I moved out to Victoria ahead of Cher to start my new position and begin to get our lives in order. I arrived in Victoria on Thursday and promptly began making connections with friends, realtors, and colleagues. That Sunday, as I was trying to relax over a video game and beer, my dear wife was trying to talk with me about my day, what I did, who I liked, and so on. Realizing my distraction, we agreed to talk later that night and hung up. About 30 seconds later I got a message with the following picture attached and a caption that said “Dad, I liked being an only child.”
That moment changed my life and the next eight months were an incredible journey in life and love with Cher, as we two, prepared to become three.
Fast forward to November 29th, a morning like many others in Victoria. Sunny with a chance of showers, fairly mild temperatures,and beautiful oceanscapes. The call came in at 8:45 to make our way to the hospital. In our case, labour had to be induced. It was not til some 30 hours later that our little angel made her appearance.
In that moment, when Eleanor took her first breath, her first cry, I felt my heart swell. Time seemed to slow down, I couldn’t take my eyes off of her. I knew then what it is to feel the euphoria that is unconditional love for another being. What a powerful feeling!
In the months since, this feeling of unconditional love has not diminished. No matter ho
w many times I’ve dealt with poop, pee, vomit, and I’m-not-sure-what-the-heck-that-is, in diapers, on her clothes, on my clothes, and other delights. No matter how long or how loud she cries. I still love her the same.
And this, I know for sure. The feeling to have unconditional love in return. The love is tangible and real. It melts my heart every time.
Unconditional love. Dosage: Daily, as much as you can give and get. Side effects may include love, love, and more love.
Happy Father’s Day Dads!