Hello friends! Today we are writing to you from a beautiful ocean side cabin on Vancouver Island where we are enjoying a little getaway in honour of our 10th wedding anniversary. It’s raining hard outside, we’re cuddled up on the couch in front of a warm fire, with a hot cup of coffee in hand. What a warm and wonderfully cozy place to be!
As we look back on our journey together over the past 10 years, our hearts are full of fond memories, laughter, joy, and love. There have been tough times, tears, and struggles too. Through it all we’ve learnt to lean on each other, learn from each other, trust each other, trust God, and love each other no matter what!
There is so much that goes into a happy, healthy marriage. It takes serious effort and committed work, marital bliss doesn’t just happen on its own.
Here are 10 tips we’ve learnt along the way to help our love keep growing.
1. God is the Centre of Our Marriage
Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
2. Quitting is NOT an Option
This is not a sport, a job, or a hobby. We made a commitment to each other and God and when the going gets tough, grab hold of each other and dig your heels in!
3. Talk About Everything!
Share your hopes, dreams, desires, struggles, fears, and failures. It’s good for your soul and it depends your trust in each other.
4. Make Time for Each Other
It is so important to make time for one another. Don’t get caught up in the busyness of life at the expense of your spouse. Check out our blog post “It’s Time to Make Time”
5. Offer Your Help
Don’t assume your partner is going to ask for help, offer it first.
6. Ask for Help
Don’t assume your partner knows what you need and don’t be afraid to ask for assistance!
It’s so easy to want to feel heard, especially if you’ve felt overlooked in your relationship, but it’s usually during this time your spouse has been going through a difficulty and sometimes it’s something they haven’t even recognized or known how to articulate yet.
8. Say Sorry First
Be the first to say sorry. Even if you’re right. Make peace and don’t let the sun go down on your anger.
9. Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff
Not every dirty dish, toilet seat left up, or undies on the floor is worth having dissension over.
10. Don’t Try to “Fix” Each Other
Let love grow, love one another despite those annoying habits, look past those imperfections.
These are just a handful of things we know to be true in our relationship. Perhaps there’s something here you might like to adopt in yours.
What other tips would you add?